Eating disorder survival guide- Recovery

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Trigger warning- If anyone needs any advice on eating disorders, please feel free to contact me (please find my contact information in the contact part of this website).

Hey guys, I nearly didn’t pick up my laptop today….some things are tough right now. But then I remembered why I started this blog in the first place, to help people and to help myself and this week I have to keep going. It’s eating disorder awareness week this week and this is something massively close to my heart, it’s part of my battle scars. I was racking my brains for blog ideas relating to this, and honestly I have so many ideas, but here is one of them…my eating disorder (ED) survival guide for recovering.💜

1). Don’t be set back by ED thoughts- There’s often a misconception that because the thoughts are still there, you have failed. Absolutely not. These thoughts will probably consume you for a long time, but it’s how we act upon these thoughts. Don’t fear them and don’t feel set back by them, accept them but say no thank you. Always carry out the opposite action.

2). Take a break from social media- Whether you think social media affects you or not, subconsciously it does. Personally, I feel one of the key reasons for an increase in eating disorders these days is social media, especially Instagram. I find coming away from these platforms takes away pressure and anxiety. I am currently taking a break from social media, for many reasons. You can always come back to it when you’re ready again, look after yourself.

3). Try a fear food every week- In recovery, I find we can often become too comfortable with the place we are in. We take small steps to recovery instead of taking big leaps from the off. By trying a fear food every week, we are increasing exposure and always stepping out of our comfort zone. If we become too comfortable with recovery, we will take longer to overcome the bigger hurdles. Don’t wait till tomorrow to recover, start today, and eat that cake!

4). Ignorance- We have to be selfish in recovery and protect ourselves. We can never escape from triggers or others opinions, but we can ignore them. Karen next door might miss the buffet because she has to fit into a dress this weekend, but that doesn’t mean you have to. Stop comparing your life to others, they are not experiencing what you are, for them, not eating cake might be the best option for them, but for you eating the cake is the better option. Drown out the noise around you and concentrate on YOUR recovery.

5). Don’t compare your recovery journey to others- As good as it is to talk to others who are suffering, we have to remember each journey is different. You might take a year to recover whilst someone else may take 3 months….everyone is unique and different. These are your unique scars and no one else’s, take each day at your own pace and remember that no suffering is more superior or inferior than anyone else’s. You matter.

6). Don’t let recovery define you- This is a small part of you, but it doesn’t define you. Yes this is a big journey in your life but it doesn’t mean you can’t live a normal day to day life. Try to live as normal as possible, I always find this helps. Don’t lose your identity along the way, you are still the beautiful you!

7). Document your journey for yourself- I don’t mean document it to keep it as a memory or something you want to go and look back at, but certainly document how you feel at the time, keep a diary. I used to write throughout my recovery and from that sparked the idea for my blog site. So much beauty can come from a place of pain and I realized that writing helped me to heal and eventually, my stories became someone else’s survival guide. I also believe that as humans we tend to sugarcoat the past, we just remember the good bits, but it’s just as important to remember your darkest days too. On a day where things are tough, its important to look back and remember how far you’ve come. Be creative and find what helps you to heal.

8). Remember that you will get through this- The rain doesn’t last forever, I promise you. I still have random days, 2 years on, where I struggle, but I think about how far I’ve come. I love talking about my journey because I think it’s beautiful, I survived to tell you all and you will survive too. My journey made me strong and it made me the woman I am today, I wouldn’t change it for the world. Keep going, you’ve got this!

Thanks so much for reading guys, I could honestly write forever, but I thought 8 tips would be enough for one day. I just want you all to know that, whatever you’re going through right now, you might not think it, but there is a way out. Life is hard, that’s the honest truth, but it’s about grabbing those small moments of peace and happiness. There are so many beautiful reasons to be happy, hang on to those you love and let go of all the bad things because you never know what tomorrow will bring. Thanks again for reading. 💜

Dancing in the rain- a small message🌈

Life has its up and downs, we all know that…the ups are amazing and the downs aren’t so good. As humans on earth we are always finding out how to make the ups more frequent, and how to make the downs less painful.❤️

I’ve spent a lot of time over the years working out what helps me in my bad times. I’ve had therapy, tried meditation, changed my mindset and spent time learning about myself…but despite all that, I’ve learnt one simple thing….sometimes we have to just wait for the rain to pass.🌈

We are getting so much better in society at helping people, in fact, people don’t suffer half as much as they ever did before. But I’ve learnt over time that sometimes we can’t rush the process. If we stopped a rollercoaster from rolling down the track, it would never have enough momentum to move up.🎢

I’ve began to learn that as much as we can help ourselves, sometimes we just have to wait it out. As hard as it is to stand in the rain, it makes us braver, stronger and more patient. And next time the storm comes again, we will be more prepared. This time you will come with a sturdier umbrella and a better coat. And eventually….no matter how hard the downpour is, you will dance in the rain.💃🏻

I just want you to know that, sometimes it’s okay to not try. You don’t have to find the answer today, or even tomorrow. Sometimes with time, clarity and freedom will come. Learn to be patient and trust the process of life, you are exactly where you need to be right now, and one day, it will all make perfect sense❤️

This little message was something that came to mind when driving this week and I just thought I’d share it with you all. There’s times that I feel the downpour will never end….but eventually it does and it’s these small moments of calm that make life so beautiful. Keep strong, be patient and remember that, this too shall pass.🥰

Thanks so much for reading guys, your rainbow is coming soon💙

The meaning behind “LoveyourMYind” and my new logo❤️

Hey, guys! This is a long awaited blog…I mean it’s been a year since love your mind started out and I’ve only just got a fancy logo! With it being a year anniversary last week, I thought it was the perfect timing for me to explain what this blog means to me…so here we go🥰

So why did I choose the name “LoveyourMYind?”💙

Out of all of the mental health blog names I could have picked…this was actually the first one I came up with, and right away it felt perfect. So what does it mean?

I’m sharing MY journey with you all- This blog is all about me sharing MY journey to loving MY own mind…what obstacles I’ve faced along the way, what helps me to love my mind and what doesn’t.

But I’m helping you to love your mind too- By sharing my journey, I’m helping you on yours too. It’s all about learning to love yourself, through tips, advice and by simply reading a blog…you are doing something kind for yourself.

So this is where MY comes from. It’s for you as the reader and me as the writer. It helps me and it helps you. I want this website to be a personal place. A place for you to really connect with yourself.

My logo-💙

1). The Lotus flower– “Even when its roots are in the dirtiest waters, the Lotus produces the most beautiful flower”… darkest times found me my brightest light. Without my dark times, I wouldn’t be where I am today. Lotus’ present rebirth, a new chapter…and whatever happens, it always grows beautiful eventually. On love your mind, it’s all about growth, some of us just take longer than others but eventually…you will grow your petels🥰

2). The colour- I really wanted a baby pink logo, just because it looked so aesthetically pleasing but…I didn’t want stereotypes to come with this. This blog is for everyone, not just for females. This year I really hope to break the stigma surrounding men’s mental health…I just want to make sure it comes across perfectly. Baby blue is perfect for anyone and everyone, and it looks great!🦋

3). The simplicity– I kept it simple because I like simple. One day I hope to have this logo on more than just my website. I have big hopes and dreams for my website and who knows, you could see this logo on all sorts. It’s good to dream big!🥰

Also, big shoutout to my boyfriend for making me my logo! You’re the best💙

This weeks blog was short and simple, but I think it’s important that you understand my website. Thanks so much to every single one of you who continues to read my blogs, it’s means the world. Keep smiling, keep positive and keep shining!🥰

I meditated everyday for a week

To me meditation is one of those things that you know you should do but you always find an excuse not to do it. It’s like when you eat junk food all week but by the time you go to grab a banana, its too late, the damage is done. I seem to find meditation when I’m in desperate need, rather than implementing it everyday….

For some people, I know mediation isn’t your thing (trust me, I know the reactions I have received when I say that I meditate), but….when you have anxiety, sometimes you just need a little extra help in finding calm, and often that little bit of extra help is found in meditation. Don’t knock it until you’ve tried it.

I found meditation about 18 months ago and my word was I amazed. For someone who found it so hard to find inner peace….I felt instant relief. It was truly beautiful. Over time I created this place in my mind, one of calm and beauty and I now know that whatever is happening at any moment in my life…I can go back to that place. When you have inner peace, you have everything. Our thoughts and feelings can be a constant battle sometimes but it’s nice to know that for a moment, this all stops.

There are so many times that I have shut mediation away and just hoped that a tv program, a YouTube video or a conversation with someone I love would push my bad thoughts and feelings away. But sometimes we have to battle our emotions head on and find peace within all its madness. So let’s get to the point, what happened when I meditated everyday for a week?

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1). On one of the days it completely changed my day from a bad one to a good one– I was having a rubbish morning (it was a Monday to be fair), I was worrying about things, I felt very anxious and I just thought in general…today’s gonna be a bad day. But instead of letting these bad emotions take over me, I spent 5 minutes meditating (YES 5 minutes, that’s it). Even from just 5 minutes, I felt an instant calm, my tension lifted off my shoulders and my worries seemed further away than ever. After that, I had a very productive, calm and all round great day.

2). I didn’t want it to end- One evening when meditating, I found myself thinking…I really don’t want this to end. It’s nice to escape from life sometimes. You forget about the emails you have sat waiting, or the work you are yet to do. You forget about everything but your breathing, the most natural thing to do as a human.

3). I could control my negative emotions more easily- I experience intrusive thoughts on a daily basis, but as soon as these arose this week, I meditated and it stopped me from reacting negatively. It allows you to realize that you don’t have to panic, everything is okay and you are not in danger! In fact, after a couple of days of meditating my intrusive thoughts had decreased. It’s also important to remember that not only does meditation benefit us mentally but it benefits us physically too. If you ever suffer from chest pains, tension in the body or an increased heart rate, meditation can really help to minimize this.

Meditation has been shown to reduce symptoms in anxiety, depression, OCD and stress. In fact, research has shown that over time, daily meditation can lead to physical changes in the brain…and good ones!

4). I felt more positive- Eventually, I began to feel a lot more positive about things. Before meditating it can feel like so much is going on and you can’t take control…but meditation stops this urgency. You realize that whatever you were worrying about or ruminating about, wasn’t that important anyway. It helps you to become a little more rational.

For me, my mind is like a constant roundabout and meditation allows me to step off for a minute and slow it down. Now I’m not saying that meditation has made me constantly positive and non reactive this week, because it hasn’t. I’ve still had negative moments and still reacted angrily to things that I maybe shouldn’t have. But what this week HAS done, is prevented me from falling into rabbit holes. When I felt negative, the meditation helped me to change that around, or when I felt anxious, meditation helped me to dismiss it. Meditation isn’t a cure but it helps you to bring calm to your life, it helps you to be less reactive overtime and its helps you to keep a good and stable mental well-being.

My question to you is…what on earth have you got to lose? Stop with the excuses and put yourself first. Don’t meditate tomorrow…DO IT TODAY! Thanks so much for reading guys, keep smiling, keep laughing and keep being YOU!

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What to remember when your loved one has OCD

I’m using today’s blog as a tool for anyone who’s loved one suffers with OCD. Sometimes the hardest thing is just knowing what to say. From an OCD sufferer myself…here’s my advice❤️

1). Sometimes we are distant– There’s so much going in our minds ALL the time. Some of us may be overthinking or worrying about a scenario, some may be going over patterns in their mind or some may be obsessively counting the calories they had today, whilst at the same time, we’re trying to stop it ALL. So don’t be too upset if we’re a bit distant or lose concentration🥰there’s a lot going on in our little minds🧠

2). Sometimes we overthink situations– Well, a lot of the time! This is something we hate but struggle to shake off sometimes. Our minds tell us things are more serious than they are…they are exaggerated in our heads and we might get upset over things that you might not. It’s doesn’t mean we are any different to you…we just think things a lot more times over🌟

3). You haven’t made me sad- Everyday is a battle and sometimes it gets too much. We might be a little sad or emotional from time to time but it’s nothing you have done…in fact, you just being here is making everything better. We need your support and we appreciate it. I often let my tears out in front on my most loved ones, not because I’m sad, but because it’s a release🙌🏻

4). Its harder for us to forgive ourselves- We feel guilty about everything! Even the littlest thing we might have done, it’s sometimes hard to forgive ourselves. So give us time and help us to understand how to move on❤️

5). We just want to have fun and enjoy life- As much as things are hard sometimes, we just want to lead a happy life, full of love and laughter. Although it’s important that you understand how we may feel or act, just be normal with us. We just want to be as relaxed and care free as we can. 🥰

6). You don’t need to be our therapist– You don’t need to be anything apart from a friend/partner/family member. All we need is your hand to hold and shoulder to cry on…you don’t need to change anything. You don’t have to try and fix us, we just want you to be yourself, then it helps us feel like we can be ourselves too. OCD doesn’t define us or our lives, someone’s we just need an extra hug. There’s no pressure on you at all….Just having you there is enough!❤️

This weeks blog means a lot to me and with it being a very confusing disorder, I hope some of you can really find comfort in this. I like to mention the challenges of having a disorder but just as importantly on love your mind, I like to address peoples support networks too. Sometimes we don’t know how we can support a loved one when all we want to do is take the bad bits away for them. I hope these blogs can appeal to everyone and not just those suffering.🤞🏻🙌🏻

Thanks so much for reading guys and I’ll be back with another blog soon! Keep smiling, keep shining, and most importantly…keep being YOU.🥰

What makes good well-being? 3 key steps

1). Having a purpose– This is something that as a world we are struggling with right now. For some, we can’t work, we can’t do our normal things and so we feel as if we have lost a purpose. But one thing I want you all to know is we all have a purpose on this earth, even when we think we don’t. Some peoples purpose is to be a famous footballer, whilst another’s is to be a charity worker in Africa. But what people forget is….what if your purpose in life is not having a purpose?

It’s okay to just lead a pretty normal life. You don’t need to be make an extravagant status to make a mark on the world. Every human has the same right to be here and the same right to lead a happy life.❤️

2). Reaching set goals– Again, it’s so hard right now to reach goals when we can’t really go anywhere. The most important thing about setting goals is 1). Not setting them too high and 2). Not setting too little. It’s all about balance. My anxieties in life only came about when I failed at reaching my self created “perfectionism”. But I’ve learnt that my goals are far higher than most people and that’s why I constantly feel like I’m failing.

Failure isn’t actually objective, it can’t be measured, it’s just something we create ourselves. Some of my greatest failures, are to others, a greatest achievement. BUT, it’s also important to keep goals there. Without goals we become demotivated and lose our sense of purpose and growth. Keep your goals attainable, you can reach for the stars one step at a time. And don’t beat yourself up when you don’t meet your standards, life is all about trial and error.🔑🙌🏻

3). Reaching your potential in life- When we feel we are working as hard as we can and using our talents to succeed in life, we feel good. But for some people it’s not a case of that, they feel like they don’t have any talents or potential to really grow. This isn’t true. Every single person on this earth has a talent, whether you know it or not, you have one. Some peoples are just more extreme than others. But no talent is better than another. Being a world champion at 100m is just as important as being a good listener. ❤️

If you don’t think you have a talent, it’s probably because you’re unaware of it’s power. It’s like when you fall in love with someone and all of the imperfections and things you’ve hated about yourself your whole life, are things that person loves about you. Don’t hide away your imperfections because to someone else they are your perfections, and one day those “bad bits” might be the ones that make you shine.🌟

It’s short and sweet this week, but I really love this blog. I’m taking some time to really reflect on myself and my life this week. Sometimes we get so caught up in life that we forget to really take a step back and remember who we are. I haven’t been giving enough time to myself lately and I started to lose battles in my head. If you ever get like this, please know it’s okay to take a step back. Switch off your phone, spend some time relaxing and remember how amazing you are❤️

Thanks for reading guys, I’ll be back soon🙌🏻🥰

“I can’t do this anymore”

To the one who is crying on the floor, sat next to the radiator. I’ve been there. When life gets too much and you don’t think you can carry on…you know what I mean. This ones for you.

1). Nothing has changed

I know you don’t believe in yourself, you’ve lost your confidence and you don’t think you’re capable of anything. But that’s not true. The thing that I’ve learned over the years is, when you think you’ve turned fat or your partner is going off you, you think you’re not as pretty as usual or you think someone is being funny with you. The only thing that has changed is your mindset.

Everyone loves you, you are more beautiful than ever, you are glowing and you are just as talented as you always were. Our mind just likes to tell us these things have changed, but they haven’t. Please remember that❤️

2). Every time I was about to give up, things got better

Giving up is the easiest option, trust me I know. It’s easier to give in, cry in a corner and wait for the pain to pass. But life doesn’t work like that. Recovering from any kind of mental disorder is tiring, hard, terrifying and completely DRAINING! But every time I have fought that little bit harder, I have overcome my battles. Right now it doesn’t feel like anything is getting better, but don’t worry. It takes time. If it was easy to overcome a disorder then counsellors would be out of a job and I wouldn’t be sat writing for you today. My battles have made me who I am today and I am proud of my battle scars.🗡

3). Some of the most amazing people in the world have been through the worst battles- It’s true. The bad days make you who you are. And I know you’re tired and I know you can’t take another day. But please for me, get up tomorrow and try again. Every bad day is closer to the good ones. Stand strong in the rain…the sun is worth waiting for🥰

4). Everyday is a fresh start- I know that today was bad for you but tomorrow is a new day. Try something new tomorrow, make tomorrow different to any other day you’ve had🙌🏻

5). Stop being so hard on yourself- Whatever has happened in your life and whatever decisions you have made, you are still amazing. Stop being so self critical, take a step back and fall in love with who you are. As humans we spend too long dwelling on the past and feeling guilty for our own emotions, but don’t. No one is perfect and you deserve to be loved❤️

6). Open your heart and let people in- I know you’ve been hurt in the past, and I know you can’t trust people. But open your heart…not everyone will break it. Stop fearing the worst, there are people who love you, and you don’t even know it. Let people in, tell them you’re sad, let people give you a hug. It’s okay to break down your walls. The more we put ourselves out there, the more vulnerable we feel…but vulnerability can be a beautiful thing. It’s better to have loved and lost, then to never have loved at all🌟

7). Things can only get better from here- If you feel like nothing can get worse, then it probably can’t. Sometimes hitting rock bottom is what helps us to find our feet. The only way is up now, all you can do is learn, grow, improve and evolve. This battle will make you stronger! I promise you🥰🙌🏻

8). You’re not alone- There are probably millions of people feeling the exact same way as you right now. Things are tough for the world at the minute but please know that you’re not alone. We are all on this crazy journey of life together, don’t struggle on your own❤️

9). Know that you have the power within you– We might get help from a therapist at one point in our lives but let me tell you this….therapists don’t cure you, they just guide you. The real answer to all of your problems, is within you. ONLY YOU have the power to fix yourself. Believe in yourself. Trust me, you’ve got this🥰

Please if you take anything away from this, take away the fact that you are amazing and powerful. You are strong enough to fight whatever battle you are facing and I believe in you. Keep going❤️

Thanks for reading guys🥰

A week without my phone…

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This blog was not planned or intended, but due to my bad luck with technology, this week I’ve been without a phone….and to be honest, it’s been bliss.

Now I’m not going to lie, as much as I’ve began to hate social media, my total screen time on my phone is quite high. So what am I even doing? We’re about to find out.🙌🏻

Here’s what I took from this week….

1). It’s just a habit. How many times a day do you pick up your phone for no reason? You have no intention or reason why you’re unlocking it for but you do it anyway. It’s a habit. I’ve had a phone for 10 years now, my brain is used to typing, searching, scrolling and unlocking, even if there’s nothing I’m looking for. When you take away a habit, you think you’ll miss it, but in reality, it’s not as bad as you think. I’ve been too busy this week to even think about it and to be honest, I’ve been more productive. I worked out, I’ve had about an extra 35 hours this week by not having my phone…CRAZY!

2). I could relax more. I don’t know about you but I find my phone so distracting at times. Whether I’m doing work, doing a workout, in the bath or trying to read…when I hear a notification, that’s it, my mind can be taken elsewhere. Who is it? What if they need me? What if it’s an important email? What if someone is mad at me? For someone with anxiety, my mind goes to the worst places sometimes and even when my phone is off, I feel like I’m missing something. BUT without the choice of even having a phone…I could relax.

3). You’ll make time for the people that matter❤️. It’s true. Although I was without a phone, I found a way to connect to those I really needed to, and that’s always the case. I picked up the house phone to have a conversation or I went on a walk instead. Social media is not always the way to connect with people and if you give up your phone for a week, it’s fine, you’ll find a way to talk to your loved ones.

4). We all need a week on our own. As harsh as it sounds, sometimes we just need a break from the world. Sometimes we get too caught up in making sure everyone else is okay, that we forget about ourselves. Forget about everyone else for a week and have some time to yourself. Leave people on delivered and leave them without a reply, if they really matter, they will understand, I assure you. Give yourself what you deserve.💜

5). Who cares what everyone else is doing- There’s many reasons why I am starting to hate social media, but one of the things is this creation of a “perfect life”. Social media is full of fakery and the more you fill your life with fake things, the less real your life gets. It makes me upset knowing how long a person will spend comparing their life, relationship, body or money to someone on Instagram. The moment you stop comparing yourself to others, the moment your life begins. I now spend less time on social media than ever before and I have got to say, I’m beginning to create a beautiful life, one which I look forward to waking up to everyday. The best moments in life are the ones off screen.🥰

Research has shown that social media has a negative affect on depression, loneliness and anxiety. In fact, it has been found that 45% of adults in the UK feel restless when they are unable to access their social media. We’re creating our own anxieties and obsessions, just think about that for a second…..

Here’s the article for anyone who wants to read further- Bashir, H., & Bhat, S. A. (2017). Effects of social media on mental health🌟: A review. International Journal of Indian Psychology, 4(3), 125-131.

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6). The things you need for good wellbeing, don’t involve a phone– What encourages good wellbeing? Healthy food, exercise, self care, talking to people, being outside, having as little stress in your life as possible. None of the things that we need to keep mentally healthy, involve a screen. Next time you find yourself with your head in the screen for hours on end, get up, get out and step away. It’s amazing how much better you’ll feel.💗

So what have you got to lose? Who’s going to join me in the challenge, will you give up your phone for a week?📱

Thanks for reading guys. It wasn’t the blog I intended on this week but I feel like this week has been a week for learning lessons, and I wanted to share some of those with you. Hope everyone is doing okay, keep smiling, keep being you and keep your head held high!❤️

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The year that changed us forever

I feel weird today, and at first I didn’t know why. I feel a bit drained, physically, mentally and emotionally and I didn’t understand why. But then I realised, we are one day away from surviving a year long pandemic. That’s something to be proud of! It’s been a tough one…but we’ve made it!❤️

So today, I thought I’d write a review of what I have learnt in this crazy, crazy year🥰

1). Allow yourself to feel everything- This is a lesson I will keep with me forever. We live such fast paced lives that we often ignore our emotions. After a breakup, a rubbish day or a negative experience, we might go on a night out and get drunk or do everything to distract ourselves from the way we feel. But eventually the feelings build up and manifest into something else. If you feel sad, allow it, if you feel happy, feel it, if you feel angry, be angry and if you want to cry, just cry. It’s one of the kindest things you can do for yourself.❤️

2). Accept your imperfections- In a way, I feel like I’ve been asleep til now. I thought I knew myself well. But it turns out the best way to really find out who you are, is to be locked in your four walls for months. There’s things I’ve had to accept about myself, things I don’t like. But I’ve worked on these things and I’m happy with my progress. You should never change who you are but you can change the decisons you make, how you react to things and how to speak to yourself and others.

I’ve sat with my thoughts, I’ve sat with my emotions and I have well and truly learnt who I am. I’m not perfect, but I can proudly say after a long time, I like who I am. Loving yourself is the key to true happiness.🔑💗

3). Look after yourself please!!!- I’ve always found it hard to sit and do nothing, I always feel guilty when I’m unproductive…but why should I? This year I have given more time to myself and my well-being than ever before and I feel amazing for it. We put our minds and bodies through so much, whether it’s late night shifts, extreme exercise, nights out, too much work or speaking negatively towards ourselves.

Life’s too short to be drained all the time, start meditating, exercising, have more pamper nights, drink more water and more importantly, start saying no. You don’t always have to say yes to everyone🥰

4). Humans need other humans– If this year has taught the world anything, it’s that, no money, items, or social media remotely compare to time with family, friends and loved ones. From now on, I will be holding everyone a little closer❤️

And…look out for one another. This world can be dark and selfish at times and there’s nothing worse than being alone. Loneliness has been one of the biggest killers this year. Talk to eachother and stay connected. Talking is something I always promote on this blog. No one should be alone and it’s okay not to be okay🌟

5). No mental disorder will ever stop me again- Just when things were really great for me, a pandemic came, and as predicted my anxiety thrived off this and new demons decided to manifest. I had a tough few months, working out what was going on and how I was going to deal with it. But to me another obstacle just means another challenge to overcome.

I can now say, I know my brain too well. I can predict my intrusive thoughts so well, and honestly I feel so mentally strong right now. Whatever you’ve been going through this year, it will get better. I don’t know about you, but after this year, I’m not letting anything stop my happiness🥰

6). Without fear, anxiety cannot thrive- For every anxious thought or feeling I have experienced this year, each one has been fuelled solely on fear. Fear of losing someone, fear of being humiliated, fear of who I am or a fear of the future. The only way I have fought demons this year is by removing fear from the equation.

‘So what if you lose everything?’ You will survive and you will get better. That’s the harsh reality of overcoming anxiety. Another big lesson this year is….only you have the true power to overcome your demons. Be confident, don’t pay attention to those negative voices, without your fear, they will not survive❤️

7). Your inner peace is your only peace- Without inner peace, there is no peace. Be your own anchor in a storm. Know that when there is peace within you, there is always a place to run to. Be at peace with who you are. Be your own safe place.🤍

8). Appreciate everything– It really is true, you don’t know what you’ve got til it’s gone. From now on, I think the world will be a nicer place. I hope people are kinder, more friendly, more appreciative and less selfish. This year has shown that life is sacred and really can be taken away from us at the click of a finger. Hug more, smile more, say thank you more, say those three words more and appreciate the little things in life.🌳

Life’s too short…do everything you’ve ever dreamed of and more. I mean it💗

This year has been a journey for many people but we’ve survived it together!💜

Although it’s been a tough one, it’s one that has changed us forever. I’ve got to say, after a year of reflection and positive change, I am happy, content and positive for whatever next year brings. I am so grateful for everything in my life and I am so lucky to have remained healthy this year🙌🏻

Thanks to everyone who has supported my blogs this year, your support means everything to me. I’m so excited to bring you all new ideas next year, I really hope next year brings you all some amazing blessings.

Keep being you, keep shining and remember whatever happens, you have survived 2020. Here’s to positive vibes next year. Love to you all and HAPPY NEW YEAR🌟


To be in with the chance of winning this little new year hamper, please make sure you are following me/ subscribed. Once you have done that please comment, “done” on this post.❤️

Good luck!🥰

My first year as a blogger🙌🏻💡🌟💓

Merry Christmas everyone! It’s 3 days till Christmas…how exciting❤️. To celebrate this festive period, I thought I’d review my first year as a blogger! Now technically, I started this blog in February/March time so it hasn’t been a full year yet, however, its nearly the end of the year so its perfect timing.

First of all I just want to thank every single person who has read a blog, liked a blog, followed my blog or even spoke to me about it. Your support means the world to me and without you guys, my plans for this blog wouldn’t be possible🥰. Since starting in March, my website has had almost, 2,500 views and has reached 20 countries across the world. I hope that with more views and more connections, I can expand my website further and open new doors and opportunities for not only me, but you guys too.

So what’s my experience been like?🌟

It’s been amazing! I have loved every second of it, writing, creating new ideas and sharing my stories with the world. It’s a great feeling to know these blogs really do work for some people, but its also great for me too. On some of my darkest days this year, opening up my laptop and writing for you guys has been so cathartic. It’s amazing how just sharing a story can open up so many conversations. I have never written a blog for sympathy, I do it to let people know….you are not alone. No story is the same but if someone can find relevance in my experiences, it can really bring some comfort.❤️

However, there was a period of time this year that I had a break away from my laptop. It felt like a dark time and I didn’t want to write about positivity when I didn’t feel it myself. That’s the thing with bloggers and vloggers, there is sometimes a pressure to write every week, film every week, be there for your subscribers. But this blog is all about wellbeing and I never intend to put this pressure on myself. No good writing is writing that has been forced. Leading onto another thing….

My blogs often take 10 minutes😮

It seems that when anything in life is spontaneous, a lightbulb moment or completely natural, its a better outcome than when its planned💡. The majority of my blogs are written during a workout, after a walk or in the bath. It is always just a small spark of inspiration that inspires me to write. In fact, one of my favourite blogs was previously a voice recording. I just walked round the house one morning preaching to my phone and next minute it was transcribed for you guys! That’s what I’ve learnt about life this year, don’t plan too much, don’t worry about the future, just roll with the here and now.☀️

So what advice would I give a first time blogger?

JUST DO IT! One of the lovely things about this blog, is that I’ve had a few messages off people who also now want to set up their own blog. And that’s means everything to me. You don’t need to be any kind of person, apart from yourself. My most popular blogs are ones which involve my own stories, humans like other humans. Just be yourself and everyone will love you. Be confident and show the world who you are. Also, It doesn’t matter if you only get one view (trust me I don’t always get many views) it for you, no one else.❤️

And finally. Don’t put any pressure on yourself, it’s supposed to be fun!😅🥰

So what are next years plans?

I plan on trying new things for you guys. Trying the latest “mental health trends”. Finding out what might work and what might not. I’m also planning on starting some collabs and expanding my website further. And also remember I will be doing a giveaway at the beginning of the new year!🙌🏻🥰

Thanks so much for everything this year, all of you. And thank you to my boyfriend who gave me the confidence to start this blog in the first place. You inspire me to be a better person everyday🥰

Have an amazing Christmas guys!🎄❤️