Mental health awareness week

As you know from my previous blog, this week is mental heath awareness week and this year the theme is “kindness”.

We all know what kindness is but how much real kindness do we receive on a daily basis? We are now in an era where kindness is there at the touch of a hand, a nice comment on Instagram or a ‘love’ reaction on Facebook, but is this type of kindness really enough to keep our mental state healthy? When was the last time someone went above and beyond for you and when was the last time you really took care of yourself?

Although our kindness towards others is very important, I thought I’d focus on another type of kindness today, one we often ignore…the kindness towards ourselves.

Now, I’m sat here on a beautiful evening trying to rack my brains for ideas for this blog, its mental health week so I want this to be perfect. But I just realised that this blog isn’t me forcing myself to write the perfect piece, its real and truthful. And to be honest no good writing is ever created by being forced, its natural and flowing. But this fits in perfectly with the idea of self kindness.

Whilst sitting here trying to write to perfection after a long, tiring day I’ve realised I’m not being kind to myself. How can I sit here fatigued and unmotivated when I’m supposed to be telling you about self kindness. So here is my plan-

1). I’m going to run a bath, switch off my phone and have some real ME time, I’ve felt mentally unstable the past couple of days and know when I need to just stop.

2). I’m going to congratulate myself on surviving the day and give myself a pat on the back for the amazing job that I’m doing, just getting through the day.

3). If I don’t feel like exercising tomorrow, I wont. It’s a tough one for me, I find it hard to stop sometimes when really I should listen to both my mind and my body…we all need rest days.

4). I’m going to give myself a break- I try so hard trying to get things done whilst forgetting that my mental health isn’t great this week. I need to stop trying to win at life everyday. I’m exhausted and can’t quite control my thoughts (a sign that you need to reflect and take some time out).

So how can you be kinder to yourself?

1). Speak kindly to yourself- You might speak to others kindly but do you speak kindly to yourself? Look yourself in the mirror and speak kind words to your mind and your body- “you look amazing today”.

2). Know what you need- It’s really important in life to know what makes you happy and to know when you need to stop. It’s respectful towards yourself. When you know what cheers you up it makes the bad days a little bit easier. Do what makes YOU happy, it’s kind.

3). Have something for yourself- I think it’s so important to have something that’s for you and only you. Whether it’s a book you’re reading, a Netflix series you watch alone or a morning run. Have something especially for your “me” time. “Self care isn’t selfish”.

4).Stop putting pressure on yourself- You don’t have to climb a mountain everyday you know. It’s all about small steps. Move at your own pace and stop pressuring yourself to get things done. Life shouldn’t always be stressful! Be kind to that mind of yours.💞

The sweet analogy- Something my dad taught me years ago. We all have a bowl a sweets and when we give our time and energy to someone they take a sweet (it’s good to be kind to others). Then if they give their time and energy to us, we take one from their bowl. Think about how many sweets you’d have in your bowl? There’s times in my life when I’d given so many I had none for myself, think about that for a moment. Although we should give our efforts and be kind others, we need to remember that we need some sweets too. No one wants an empty bowl. So carry on giving out sweets but also give some back to yourself. Be kind to you.☀️

Thanks so much for reading! I hope you have an amazing weekend, be kind to others and be kind to yourself…today and always!🥰

Misconceptions of anxiety disorders- clearing them up

I’m so happy that over the past few years the stigma attached to mental health disorders has massively changed. People aren’t afraid to speak out anymore and when we start to open up, good changes happen. Now, personally I think stigmas exist due to lack of knowledge, people being unaware about what these disorders entail and therefore judging based on socially constructed stereotypes, this makes speaking out feel scary.

I don’t want it to be scary for you. I want you to be happy with who you are. So today I’ve decided to clear up some misconceptions that I have come across about people living with anxiety disorders (all my own thoughts).

Trees on Mountain

1). ‘If you have anxiety you’re quiet, socially awkward and unconfident’- This is completely wrong. In fact, people with anxiety are pretty good at hiding it after a while. It’s something that comes and goes and something with you learn to live with, it doesn’t define your personality in any way whatsoever. I have lived with anxiety for years… and if you know me well, I am definitely not quiet!

2). ‘If you have an eating disorder you’re very underweight’- Again NOT TRUE! An eating disorder is not defined by the way you look, it’s defined by a bad relationship with both food and your body, whether this is undereating, overeating or just a general anxiety around food. You would be surprised about the amount of people living with eating disorders that hide it so awfully well. Its important to recognise the signs of this disorder through a persons behaviour rather than the way they look.

3). ‘If you’re having a panic attack it will be clear to everyone around you‘- If you suffer with panic disorder then you know exactly what I mean. Yes, having a panic attack can be scary for both you and those around you and when its really bad, its a dramatic scene. However, suffering a panic attack doesn’t always involve the physical symptoms of dropping to the floor in pain, sometimes it’s only you that knows it’s happening. You don’t want to make a fuss so try your best to control it, to others this may seem like you’re not listening, mentally not in the room and often seem a bit snappy. Suffering in silence is an often occurrence for those with anxiety…so next time I ignore you, just give me 5 minutes!

4).’ When you have OCD you’ve got an obsession with cleaning‘- Not necessarily. Compulsions within this disorder can be in the form of anything! These compulsions are there to both distract you and protect you from the anxiety that is subconsciously present. For me, it was in the form if touching things 8 times (time consuming I know), for others it can be excessive cleaning, some it’s counting numbers in their head all day long and for others it’s random obsessive thoughts. Each debilitating and time consuming. So next time you see someone doing something out of the ordinary, accept that it’s just a little quirk of theirs. Its hard enough carrying out compulsions all day long so not having to answer questions is a big bonus for OCD sufferers.

5). ‘If you have depression you look sad all the time’- People who have depression are often the ones you least expect. We often assume people with depression are easy to spot yet a lot of these sufferers are good at hiding it. Just because someone lights up a room it doesn’t mean they’re sparkly and bright on the inside, take this into account.

6). ‘When you have anxiety you’re scared of everything’- Like they say, feel the fear and do it anyway. Having anxiety doesn’t mean you’re more scared than anyone else, you might just worry a little more. I still get nervous posting blogs just in case no one likes them or thinks they’re stupid, but it doesn’t mean I won’t post. I like to challenge myself to do something that scares me everyday. Try it tomorrow.

7). “I’m not the anxious type”-Yes you might not suffer with an anxiety disorder but anxiety itself is part of human nature, it’s a function that we all experience at some point in our lives. That’s why it’s important to know how to both control it and deal with it. My blogs are not just for people with disorders, they’re for everyone!

8). A different type of assumption, “You only write these blogs to help people”- Of course I write them to help people and I want my blogs to reach as many people as possible but I want you to know I also do it for myself. Writing has pulled me out of so many dark places and that’s why I’m so grateful that you read them…so I can keep writing. They help me in so many ways and I really hope they help you too!

Purple Night Sky Photo
You’ve got this!

Thanks so much for reading guys, I really hope you enjoyed reading this as much as I did writing it! Hope you’re all staying safe and well and have an amazing weekend in the sun. Keep shining!

Things I wish I knew when I was younger

I might only be young but there’s been many years in my life so far that I wish I knew what I know now. Not worrying about the opinion of others, not feeling anxious when I don’t need to and not overthinking things so much.

I’ve seen this idea a couple of times in magazines and blog post ideas and thought it would be a good read! So I hope you enjoy!🥰

1). Don’t change for others- It’s hard to take this advice when you’re young and all you want to do it be accepted by others but changing for people never works. The more you change, the more you have to deviate from who you really are and the less happy you’ll be. Don’t follow the crowd, be YOU everyday and let people love you for the person you really are…it’s something you won’t regret. It’s takes time but once you really like who you are, you’ll never feel alone.

2). Say NO- I still struggle with saying “No” now but it’s something I’m improving on. There’s so many times in my life that I’ve participated or done things just to please others because I was scared to upset anyone by saying no. But as you get older you realise what’s important in life, and you can’t do everything for everyone. I sometimes forget that this life is mine and therefore I can control it. You can’t have time for your own well-being if you keep saying “Yes” to things you don’t want to! Take back control of your life❤️

3). Don’t worry about the future, everything works out- Something we should all use in our everyday. There were so many days I worried about things that then turned out to be absolutely fine. Everything worked out. Remember this on those bad days you have now…everything turns out okay in the end!

4). Don’t compare yourself to others- Although it’s still hard not to sometimes, I wish I knew the negative impact that comparing yourself to others really has on you. I spent years jeopardising my own happiness by thinking I should look different or be achieving certain things. I wish I hadn’t now because I’m exactly where I need to be and comparing yourself never works. I’m happy being me and you should be too!

5). You’re amazing and doing great!- It’s upsets me that there’s been so many time’s in my life I didn’t give myself enough credit. We often beat ourselves up for no apparent reason and overthink things until we almost lose our minds. I wish I could tell myself that I was right just the way I was and that I was doing amazing! Are there times you think the same? Remember that, the next time you try to beat yourself up on a bad day. Speak kind words to yourself💞

6). Believe in yourself- I really wish I’d believed in myself more when I was younger. I was always expecting to fail or be judged. I’d stand on the start line of a sprint race and already have lost the battle in my mind by telling myself I couldn’t do it. I often wonder what I would have achieved if I’d just believed in myself.

After writing this I genuinely feel like it’s done something great for me (you should try it and see if you feel the same!) It’s like a reflection task, they always seem to make you think about how you see and treat yourself. It’s made me see that the things I wish I knew back then, I still don’t always do now….sometimes not believing in myself or not saying “No” when I really need to.

It’s something I always seem to do now when making decisions…I wonder if my 10 year old self (so full of hopes and dreams) would be happy with who I am today? It sounds cheesy but I think it works. I sometimes struggled with confidence back then but I liked who I used to be and I like who I am now. Would your younger self be happy with how you treat yourself today? Remember how far you’ve come to get where you are today and be proud of yourself!⭐️

A quote used often in our family- “Be who you needed when you were younger😌”

You are magic!

Thank YOU for reading! Hope you enjoyed this blog…Stay safe, stay happy and I’ll be back with more positive posts soon! Have a great week all💞

(My email is open at all times for advice❣️)

Leaving lockdown

As exciting the thought of leaving lockdown soon is, I think its important to address whats about to change.

It really upsets me the amount of dark places people will no doubt have been in during this period of time…it’s been difficult, I’ve certainly been challenged at times and although things will change soon, I want to keep up my support as we leave lockdown, re entering the world that we no longer recognise.

We first have to remember that just because things are getting back to normal, it doesn’t mean your state of mind will….things take time and that’s okay. If things don’t feel right and your mindset doesn’t go back to how it was before….don’t panic. It’s about taking small steps and not expecting everything at once.

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Here, based on all my own thoughts, I’ve devised some tips and advice-

1- Accept that things are different-

At first when all this lockdown began, I imagined that once it ended we’d all leave our houses, be reunited with loved ones and get back to our normal lives. But realistically this will not be the case. Accept that things are different, its going to take a while to get our lives back on track. But everyone is the same, there’s no rush, no pressure and everything will fall back when it’s meant to.

2- We have just survived an EPIDEMIC!-

We cannot forget this period of time that we have just experienced, an epidemic, a moment in history. Take things slow and look after yourself, this has been a very difficult time for the world and we have to remember this.

3-Don’t be anxious

Although I suffer with anxiety, I’ve never been socially anxious, I love going out and seeing people but I have to admit…I’m starting to get more anxious. Just going to the supermarket has created a pressure that was never there before but please remind yourself…you don’t have to anxious. In order for our lives to get back on track we have to continue normal activities, thing will be okay, don’t panic!

Lake and Mountain

4- Be hopeful

As much as we have to be mindful of the rules and accept that things will be different, we should be hopeful too. Be excited for the life you’ve been longing to have back. Plan what you’re most excited for and be hopeful for the future. We’ve had our fair share of bad days recently, there’s so many good ones waiting for you now!

5- Keep talking

Just because things will be getting back to normal soon it doesn’t mean we should lose touch, keep talking and keep supporting each other. Everything is easier when shared together!

6- Use your reflection

I’ve used this period of time to reflect a lot on what’s important in my life and what I would like to prioritise…now is the time to create the life you’ve envisaged. Implement the things in your life that make you happy and prioritise the people that you really missed in this period of isolation. Create the life you’ve always wanted because nothing is stopping you!

Person Hand Reaching Body of Water

Remember, things won’t go back to normal for a while but that’s okay. Look after yourself and those around and look forward to the bright future ahead!

Thanks for reading. Stay safe, stay happy and be YOU!

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The truth about living with anxiety disorders

It’s time to be honest!

As much as we can sugarcoat anxiety as something that happens to everyone (a normal human function)…I think we sometimes forget the severity of anxiety that some people live with.

As someone who is often drowned by its power, I’m here to tell you the truth.

Its exhausting, mentally, physically and emotionally.

I love to express my passion for creating a positive life and having a glass half full is, in my eyes, the best way to live. However, I’m sat here tonight having endured a day of obsessive thoughts, a tight chest and the feeling that I will fall apart at any moment. That’s the thing, we can change our perspective, have positive days, have happy days but when you live with this day in day out, some days it’s just all too much. That’s me today.

I guess what I’m trying to say is as much as we can control things in our life, sometimes we just have to say enough is enough…and accept that its okay to have a bad day.

Anxiety disorders come in all different types-

Panic disorder

General anxiety disorder

Depression

OCD

Eating disorders

Phobias

Each one debilitating, draining and hard to control. All I can explain it as is your mind being in complete overdrive all day. Imagine having to complete a day at work but whilst holding back a panic attack or using all your energies to deter the constant intrusive thoughts in your mind. There’s so many moments in my life I’ve been physically present but not mentally…sitting down for a meal whilst calculating each and every calorie, overanalysing every word someone says to you or holding back the panicky feeling that the world is about the fall around you.

Sometimes I wish I was different. What would life be like without worrying all the time or feeling panicky when I don’t even have anything on my mind?

BUT here’s where the glass becomes half full- (I think) From anxiety disorders become-

An understanding of others

Always wanting the best outcome

Always working hard until things are just perfect (although being a perfectionist is exhausting)

Taking others feelings into account

From all my bad days have come this amazing ability to not only know my mind and it’s weird mechanisms but to also learn to have almost complete control over my mind. It’s one of the greatest powers you can have!

From anxiety comes the ability to predict my behaviour before it happens and therefore keep control of my disorder. Control is power and it comes from experience.

Without having anxiety disorders I wouldn’t have explored my mind in all its entireties and I wouldn’t be the person I am today…I wouldn’t be writing these blogs right now and I certainly wouldn’t have the control over my mind that I now do. With control comes power and with that comes happiness.

Whatever you’re suffering with, know that the bad days pass and only make your mind stronger. Own your disorders, they make you YOU.❤️

Please remember our mind is there to be controlled and not there to control us! Take control and live the life you’ve always wanted. If not today, make it TOMORROW!

Thanks for reading guys- please know that my email is open all day everyday for anyone about anything! Stay safe, happy and have a great week🙌🏻

The journey to loving your body

Woman Wearing Red Bikini

This is a big one for me, my journey with my body is one of the journeys that has made me who I am today.

I think when it comes to image we too often look for acceptance in the way others see us, through compliments, achievements, a number on the scales or how good people think we look, but this is all wrong. True love with your body comes from within, it comes from YOU. It’s a journey we must embark on alone, stumble through on our own but discover its beauty on our own (as hard as it is at times!)

I’ve struggled with accepting my body for a long time, over analysing little things, thinking parts of me should look better or different…. so what made me finally say this is enough?

After battles with my body confidence day in day out, I started to realise that things needed to change and that the only person who really judged my body was myself. Here I’ve devised some tips on how to love your body-

1- Perspective- perspective is everything. Rather than seeing your body as a feature of your appearance, see it as a shelter, its not just an object to be adored but a machine that keeps us breathing, loving, creating and more than ever right now we are relying on our bodies to fight off diseases. We often forget how amazing our bodies are and we must be thankful for them.

2-The bigger picture– when all is said and done our bodies are not what are remembered, they grow old and beauty fades but the real things that matter stay. Love, laughter, memories, happiness and the soul that’s within. I have to tell myself that the happiest times of my life weren’t defined by the way I looked but the people I was with and the way it made me feel. You won’t be remembered by the weight on your scales but the love you showed and the life you led.

3-Own your insecurities– we all have little things we might want to change but every part of your body is what makes you unique and the right person will love those parts one day. We’re different for a reason, the body you have is quite often what someone else wants and what they have will be what another person wants too. In the competitive world we live in we’re always searching for more but forget about the beauty that’s already there. When you begin to love your insecurities they start to become your best assets.

4- Stop comparing yourself- When we scroll through Instagram or any source of social media we often forget that this is NOT REAL…it’s simply a snippet of someone’s life..quite often filtered, angled correctly, photoshopped and portrayed to be more exciting than it is. What Instagram doesn’t show is the persons mental state behind the camera, they’re comparing themselves just as much as you and find it hard to keep up in such a competitive world. The biggest step to loving yourself is to simply stop comparing!

5-Use your body– Rather than dwelling on our perfectly imperfect bodies, remember how amazing and capable they are. Go for a run, go for a walk, use your body to it’s full potential and be thankful for its abilities! This is a great way of creating a really good relationship with our bodies.

6- Speak kindly to your body– I always thought it was a bit weird speaking to your own body but trust me…it feels so good! Speaking to your body in positive and kind ways (like you might to someone else) is spoken so highly of in the body positivity world. We forget to be kind to ourselves and thank our bodies for all the amazing things it does. Tomorrow when you get up, thank your body, look yourself in the mirror and speak kind words, something like “Wow you look amazing today!”. Now one thing that sounds even crazier is hugging yourself. But trust me…we need to hug ourselves from time to time because we are our own biggest enemy at times!

So in a nutshell…Thank your body, it’s an amazing machine, embrace every part of your body, know that you are unique and beautiful, stop comparing yourself to others and most importantly speak kindly to yourself!

Despite being happy with my body now I’m going to be honest I still have days where I feel unconfident…but we all bloat, we all have scars and our bodies are different for a reason. Love who you are because there is only one of you and life is far too short to not eat that piece of cake!

Self love is the greatest love you can have, it’s a love that already exists, you just have to find it. Once it’s there it will never let you down! Are you ready to embark on the journey of finding self love or are you already there?💞

I hope you can find some help in these tips and I really hope people can start to embrace their bodies because we are all beautiful in our own little ways..the right person will love your insecurities and you should too!❤️

Have an amazing weekend guys. Stay safe, stay happy and keep loving!☀️

Keeping being you!🙌🏻❤️

My tips on how to seek a happier life☀️

Happy Saturday everyone, hope you’re all doing well! I’ve been thinking a lot about what to write this week and I have so many drafts that I’m yet to finish…but I wanted something simple today so what better than a list!

Now I don’t claim to have the perfect life…because the perfect life doesn’t exist. But what I am so lucky to admit is that I AM HAPPY. I’m in a good place and I have so much to be thankful for.

Happiness is something we all want to achieve but sometimes life gets in the way and things aren’t always easy. However, my biggest problem when reaching happiness is my own mind. Why can’t we just let ourselves be happy?

Here’s a few tips of my tips on how to lead a happier life-

1. Let go and give in- I find that when I get to a period of happiness in my life, I start to question why it’s so good (a side effect of anxiety). I overthink, worry that something will take it away or I ponder as to why I deserve it. STOP. Let go. Let yourself be happy. You deserve it! As soon as you free yourself from your own negative thoughts…happiness tends to stay.

2. Stop comparing yourself to others– This is difficult in the social media world that we live in but trust me, once you stop comparing yourself you’ll feel completely free. It’s funny how the people you compare yourself to are the ones who are struggling just as you are. Once I stopped comparing both my body and my life to others I found a new love for myself. I realised the pure beauty in the fact that there is only one of me in this world…that’s something so powerful! Doing YOU will be the easiest thing you ever do and if someone doesn’t love you for you, they’re not the right person❤️ TIP- If I start to doubt myself I delete Instagram. It’s amazing how refreshed you feel!

3. Reflect- I talk about reflection a lot in my blogs because I believe so much in its power. We often forget how far we’ve come, the things we’ve achieved and actually how great we are. Modern life is so fast pace and full of pressure, just allow yourself 5 minutes to reflect on things. Reflect on how amazing you’re dealing with things and get rid of anything that’s worrying you. Giving yourself some credit really contributes to a happier YOU!

4. Discover what makes you happy in life– This is something I really dived into last year. I found myself on my own, so decided it was time to find out what really makes me happy, even in the littlest things. Try new things, discover new ideas, step out of your comfort zone and scare yourself on a daily basis. Once you find the little things that make you happy, implement them into your everyday life. That way everyday has a little joy! What you do in your life is your choice and we often forget that we have control over it. Make everyday a happy one for you. It’s the simple things that make life so wonderful💞

5. “Be the change you want to see in the world”- Now it’s so easy to sit back and discuss or worry about the worlds problems but who’s stopping you from changing it? We are born with no less worth than anyone else, if you want to help the environment, be a kind person, change someone’s life or go and save the world…DO IT. Nothing is stopping you. We have one life and YOU could make the world a better place🌍

6. My life motto“If it’s meant to be, it will be”- I follow by this in everything I do, don’t worry about the past or the future, what’s meant to be will be and that is true. I believe everything happens for a reason so once we’ve done our best in a situation and it’s no longer in our control, we have to let it go. Don’t overthink the experiences that are taking you to your right path. Trust the process. 🙏🏻

7.Find the good when things are bad– As imperfect as our lives can be at times it’s important to count our blessings. When you wake up in the morning, ask yourself what you’re grateful for…I assure you you’ll have a better day!

From me to you..Learn who you are as a person and exactly what makes you happy. Know your worth, let go of judgment and fall in love with yourself…this takes time but when you truly love yourself, everything else falls into place. You have one life and it’s a complete blessing. Stay happy and every bad day will become that little bit easier!😌

But please remember…happiness is a journey and not a destination! Life isn’t easy and not everyday will be good but you can find something good in everyday and find the happiness in you!🥰

Have a great week guys and I’ll be coming back with some more tips on a happy life very soon! Please remember you’re worth more than you know and a lot of people love you!❤️

Count those blessings!

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Happy Easter!🐣

Happy Easter everyone! Hope you’re all well and enjoying the sun. I thought it would be nice to post a blog today as I love Easter and despite the current pandemic I will be making sure today is as special as any other year!

Now I’m sure we all know what The Easter story’s all about so why would I write a blog today?

Well… I thought with Easter being all about new beginnings it would be the perfect time to write something for you all.

By new beginnings I don’t mean you have to change things in your life overnight, it’s just about 2 little words. Reflect and Reset. We tend to only really reflect when new year comes but this is where we go wrong. By making room for 5 minutes of reflection in your life each day, you will feel transformed.

After all that’s happened in the past couple of months, Easter is the perfect time to reflect and reset. Ask yourself these questions:

-How are you really feeling (Mentally/physically/emotionally?)

-Have you achieved any goals in the year so far (if so give yourself some credit😌)

-Are you where you’d like to be?

There’s absolutely nothing holding you back from being who you want to be. My goal right now is to just be happy (whatever it takes), I think that’s a great goal to keep all year round.

After reflecting its time to reset….

Find your ground. What makes you calm? What brings you back to a place of complete serenity?

Reset your mind. Reset your focus. Reset your goals and Just BREATHE. Reset your goals to bring you a step closer to complete happiness. Ask yourself these questions-

-What is it that makes me happy? Can I implement these things in my life from now on?

-How can I change my mindset (from negative to positive)/ How can I reset my body so it feels good again? This might just be a day of no exercise but stretching or a long relaxing bath

-What are my new/ongoing goals

New beginnings mean chance for new hope and fresh starts. Everyday is.

It’s important to reflect on where you are mentally and physically and reset anything that doesn’t feel right. For example, you might be feeling negative this week or maybe your body is a bit fatigued (our body can tell us a lot about what’s going on in our heads) so you just need a day to reset!

So as you enjoy the day that’s all about new beginnings, allow yourself some time to reflect on the year so far and take both the positives and negatives from this. We’ve been through a huge transition in the past few weeks so need to reflect and make sure we’re doing okay. Easter is the perfect chance for this. New beginnings, new mindsets, new goals and a happier you!

Now I’m going to enjoy some chocolate and a day completely relaxing and being with my family. I hope you all have an amazing day and a great week. HAPPY EASTER ALL!💞 God bless.

Taking some time out

Happy hump day! Hope you’re all doing okay. Today has been the perfect day for writing and what better time for a little inspiration than in the middle of the week!☀️

I didn’t know what to write about this week and always rely on something I’ve experienced in the week or something I’ve seen….so here’s my inspiration this week!

Taken from Instagram- @ALIHEMSLEY

In this lockdown as you know I’m trying to be as busy as possible which is great but sometimes that’s the problem. I keep seeing things on social media saying “Who are you going to be when you leave lockdown?” “How are you making the most of your free time, are you learning a language, are you getting even fitter?”

But let’s take a step back and realise what’s actually going on…

We’ve stopped working and the world still revolves🌍

We’ve stopped sending emails and the world still goes on⭐️

We’ve stopped rushing around, buying unnecessary things and the world has never looked better🌳

You need to stop feeling pressured by the world and by yourself!

We think we know what stopping is. Going to the pub after work, sleeping in til 10 or going out for lunch. But this isn’t stopping. You are having the opportunity as we speak to really STOP. Focus on your body and your mind for the first time in a long time, whilst having no pressure at all. It’s rare that you will find this time again. You’re ready to rejuvenate, the world is telling you.

Today’s the first day I’ve realised that I haven’t fully stopped yet. It’s the third week of lockdown and although being busy is good for my mind, I’m still putting pressure on myself, to workout everyday, organise things, eat healthy, keep in touch with people and do online courses. But I forget that one of the most important things to do right now is to simply stop.

Although I’m not on the frontline, this period of time is still draining, I’m sleeping less, getting anxious more and worrying about the future. So it’s time for me to recognise this and take a break. Your mind is just as important as your body😌

Now by relaxing I don’t necessarily mean go and binge on Netflix all day (that doesn’t do anyone any good) but really find what relaxes your mind and body.

For me this is-

-Yoga

-Reading

-Walking or running

-Sunbathing/having a drink in the garden🍷

-Having a bubble bath/pamper

-Meditation

Keep yourself busy and occupied during this time but also allow this time to recharge before life gets crazy again! And don’t feel guilty for doing it. We don’t look after our minds and bodies enough❤️

Thanks for reading! I hope you all have a positive and amazing week and listen to your bodies!😊

A positive blog you didn’t know you needed😌

Happy Friday everyone. I’d just like to start off by saying thank you so much to every one of you who has read a blog/s. Your support means a lot to me and knowing that these blogs are helping people just makes me feel even more motivated on my bad days too!

I’m not going to lie, I’ve had some bad days this week, I’ve still kept busy and happy but can’t seem to shake off some of the bad thoughts in my head…but I know this is completely normal right now. They like to appear when things in our lives are out of our control.

So I thought to start off a great weekend I could help not just myself but also you guys by writing a blog that’s just full of positivity (hence the title!) Hope you all enjoy….

It really is true^^

I’ve decided today that I need a reset of mind, from negative to positive just in time for the weekend. So as soon as I post this blog I’m going to follow my own advice. Here’s my tips for you (and myself)…..

1- Write down all the positive things that have happened this week-

Even if it’s as simple as you sorted through some draws. We often punish ourselves to do more and be better but forget what we have already achieved, this is a great way of feeling good about yourself and the week that has just passed!

2- Write down 10 things you’re grateful for-

It sounds cringe I know but there’s a reason this technique is used, it works. I often have to step back from my insecurities and realise that I have everything I need in my life, this is a great way of appreciating all the good things you take for granted. This list should help you get up on the bad days!

3- Positive affirmations-

Again, it sounds cringe but they really do work. My biggest fight is with my own body confidence but this is because we often forget to speak to ourselves with respect. We tell others how amazing they are and how great they look but never to ourselves. Look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you look great, our minds and bodies are phenomenal and we often forget to thank them for all the amazing things they do. Here’s some affirmations to tell yourself today and everyday.

-You are confident and strong

-You are enough and there is only one of you

-Look at how far you’ve come

-You’re doing amazing today!

-My favourite morning affirmation- “Today is going to be a great day”

“You look beautiful today” don’t forget it!

It really is true that there is only ONE OF YOU! We are unique in our own ways and have our own purposes on earth. So look after yourself!🌍

4- Changing the way you think-

It sounds easy but it takes practice. Here’s how it works….next time you have a negative thought, change it to a positive one, no matter how hard it seems.

For example- “Another day in isolation” changed to “Another day closer to everything being normal again”

I hope these tips have helped anyone that needs it, I know I needed it today. So wake up tomorrow, tell yourself “This is going to be an amazing weekend” and try to enjoy the little things without overthinking!

So from me to you guys, Happy Friday. We survived another week!🍾❤️

Dedicated to a special person in my life that always boosts my confidence💞